HEIDI: Heidi really enjoyed her time up north – getting to meet with so many friends & family –not to mention getting to see her brand new nephew Caden! She really, truly enjoyed meeting & connecting with some of her SIDS mom friends. They went out to eat at the New Yorker & were there for FOUR hours, just talking! It is wonderful & healing to be able to share, learn & understand. She is so thankful to her mom & sister who helped out so much with the girls while she met with friends. It was a scramble to get everything ready for school this year & she really didn’t feel prepared. It seemed (yet again) that the summer went to fast & she wasn’t ready to have her children gone all day. It has been nice to get back into routines, though, and she enjoys spending more one-on-one time with Kezia & Noelle. She continued the 8 week healthy challenge & it is ALMOST over! She doesn’t think she will win, but she has lost over 10 points, so she is excited about that! She also got to get in a couple training runs with her dad – one was down Butterfield Canyon (super-steep!) and one was down Cedar Canyon. It was nice to not have to do the long runs alone. Heidi also enjoyed reading “The False Prince” this month.
-McKinley enjoyed going to Salt Lake & getting to sleep over at Michael’s & she LOVED getting to see her Herriman friends, Jack & Lizzy J
-This month was McKinley’s BIG PERFORMANCE of Seussical! She really did well! Her costume was SO cute – and she was so animated when she sang. It was fun to see her solo at the end, too “I do not like them Sam-I-Am!” J Unfortunately, the combination of the stress of play practice & starting school (she was up at 7:15 for school & had to go straight to play practice after school, not usually getting home till about 10) proved to be a bit too much at the end & she had quite a few tears & meltdowns. The week after the play was over, we had her go to bed at 6:30 to have some much-needed “down time.”
-We had some last-minute confusion with which teacher McKinley was going to have for 3rd grade. They originally placed her in a 2/3rd grade class, but mom & dad didn’t feel like she would get challenged enough & the other class was full, so it was Mrs. Heap’s class that McKinley was placed in. She was worried about a boy named Austin bothering her, but so far she has had a good experience in Mrs. Heap’s class. Her whole classroom is decorated with a jungle theme & there are monkeys everywhere J
-Even though Joshua had basically given up on the kids 8 week challenge, McKinley kept going. It was so nice for mom to have a partner to share the challenges with & even though it was hard for McKinley sometimes, she really did a great job & didn’t give up! Great job McKinley!
-McKinley continues to enjoy playing the piano whenever she gets a minute. She has about 4 songs memorized. We hope to get her in lessons soon. Great job McKinley!
-McKinley still deals with a lot of fear every night. She will tell mom she’s scared. She has a list of about 20 things she can do (read scriptures, listen to primary songs, etc), but she doesn’t always want to do them & she just has a hard time some nights – even after Grandma tried to help her, too.
-One day mom took all the girls to Walmart & let them each pick an outfit for the first day of school. Ireland looked for a dress, but they didn’t have the exact one she wanted. She said she wanted twinkle toe shoes instead. Mom told her if she got the shoes, she wouldn’t be able to get a new outfit, but she didn’t care. She wanted the shoes! So – she got the shoes!
-At the back-to-school night, mom was with Ireland going down the hall & Ireland saw someone in the hall & ran up to her & yelled “Hey – I forgot about YOU!”
-Ireland seemed to have a hard time at the end of the month with McKinley getting all the attention because of her play, so she was pretty naughty – breaking things and making huge messes L
-One day, Ireland said “Mom – you and dad are TATTERPATED!” (as in, twitterpated) J
-On Sundays, we usually get out the nice China to eat on. One Sunday Ireland said “We’re going to eat off the Chinese plates tonight” J
-We watched a video online about a woman doing the Ninja Warrior obstacle course. She was really amazing. Ireland said “Mom – you could totally do that! You were famous in gymnastics!”
-August was Ireland’s turn for her lunch date. Mom got to take her to Arctic Circle & then to The Fix for some ice cream! Yum!
-Ireland’s eczema seemed to get worse this month so we’re trying to stay on top of the hydrocortisone.
-Kezia loved going to Salt Lake & seeing her cousins. When we were at GGs spaghetti dinner, there was a girl that came up to us & asked what the names of our girls were. We told her & when we said “Kezia,” she said “that’s my name, too!” She even pronounced it exactly the same way! We had to get a picture. Don’t know when that will ever happen again!
-Kezia says she wants to be a princess when she grows up. She’s says she’s changing her name to Aurora. Mom asked her what she will be if she’s not a princess & she said “A mom. And I will go to the beach and lay in the sand & eat cotton candy.” Amused, mom asked her who will do all the cleaning & laundry & errands while she is at the beach. Kezia said “My husband.” And mom persisted by asking who would then pay the bills. “A friend!” she replied. Makes so much sense!!
-Mom had bought some hydrocortisone cream for Ireland’s eczema & put it in the bathroom. One day mom found the hydrocortisone opened & on the counter. Mom came to Kezia & asked why she was playing with it. Kezia got big eyes & said “that’s not the toothpaste? I brushed my teeth with it! I thought it tasked funny…”
-Kezia probably comes into our room at night 4 out of 7 nights a week. Mom will usually look over to see the rocking chair moving. Kezia tries to sleep in it. She will go out of the room & come back in & then finally sleep on the futon. When we ask her about it the next day, she usually doesn’t remember anything. One night Kezia came in & slept on the futon. Noelle was having a hard time –crying. We could hear Kezia softly singing. Mom thought she might have just been singing in her sleep, but she said she was singing Noelle’s goodnight song to help her sleep.
-Kezia says she’s going to name her child Rosetta.
-There was a picture where mom had woken up & still had makeup on. Kezia pointed to the picture & said “Mom, you look scary in this picture.”
-Lately, Kezia has been talking a lot about mom’s “carriages” (miscarriages). Whenever we talk about how many people we have in our family, she always counts the “carriages.” J
-Kezia started PRESCHOOL! She has Mrs. Clara this year, but she also gets to see her teacher from last year, Mrs. Kristie and Mrs. Lynette, which she LOVES. She already knows a couple people in her class – Emi Daniel and Hadley – and we get to carpool with her friend Paige Hillstead. The only thing that makes her sad is that she can’t go every day like her sisters L
-Kezia earned a date this month! She chose to go swimming & then out to Sub Zero with mom J
-Kezia says “grateful for this wonderful world. For these beautiful trees. And for the earth.”
It was so neat this month to meet more families that have lost babies to SIDS. We sat & talked about you, Link, and about all the other baby boys up there with you. We can’t help but think you all play together and come together to help & support your moms & families through the missing of you. There have been quite a few babies join you on the other side this month & we hope you will welcome & love them as well. We love you. We miss you. We talk about you every day. Daddy & mom have been reading “Embraced by the Light” & it gives us a lot of comfort about the glory that you are living in on the other side. We haven’t been good with family history lately & we are so sorry, baby boy. We hope to get back into it once Noelle reaches 5 months old.
-August was a stressful month for mom with Noelle being the same age as Link when he died. We are so thankful she is still with us.
-Noelle is getting so good at grabbing her feet. She likes to grab her toes & turn to the side. She still rolls from her belly to her back, but hasn’t really rolled from her back to her belly yet.
-She is still our spitter-upper. Mom is trying to keep bibs on her more.
-Noelle still loves to get her hands in her mouth whenever possible. One time she was taking a bath & mom was washing her hands & she stuck them right in her mouth – bubbles & all. She wasn’t sure what to think about that!
-Noelle is getting to be a pro at all her toys – she hits the toys & makes the music go on her overhead gym – she can also spin the middle rattle. She can pull the cow on her chair & make it sing “old McDonald” and she is getting really good at the exersaucer, too!
-She still sits in the Bumbo at the table when we eat & she is definitely getting more & more interested in food. And – don’t put anything close to her because she will grab it & spill it!
-This month, we moved Noelle from her little vibrator chair to the crib. We moved the crib right by our bed. We also got a sleep guardian. It’s a blanket that fits on half the mattress like a fitted sheet and then there is a thing that you can strap them into it so she can’t roll over. It does provide peace of mind – especially with the Snuza on her. And we have the video monitor on her pretty much all the time as well. We have let her cry at 5, 10 & 15 minute intervals. It’s hard since she’s right next to us in bed, but it makes comforting her easier. She also sleeps with a little floppy dog that can hold her binki & she does like to watch the mobile.
-Noelle usually naps in the portable crib, the regular crib, or the swing.
-She still eats every 3 or so hours. She seems to be better with going longer. She fought the bottle for a while, but she seems better at taking it lately.
-Her hair coming in seems to be a bit lighter than the hair on top. I guess we’ll have to see how her hair turns out!
-Noelle LOVES to stare at the picture of our family taken on the day of Link’s blessing. She will just look up at it, stare, and sometimes babble to it. We’re pretty sure she was there & recognizes that day!
-Noelle LOVES to be outside – she loves to watch the cars on the freeway from our deck. She loves to swing in grandma’s hammock on her deck. She loves to hang out when we camp.
-Noelle has quite a few songs that we like to sing to her. Her goodnight song is the most important:
(sung to “The First Noel” J )
Noelle, Noelle our sunrise girl
You bring such light to our whole world.
Noelle, Noelle we sing to you
Your goodnight song, know we love you.
Now rest your head, our little one.
We’ll see you when the night is done.
A couple other songs we sing to Noelle:
Noelle, our bell (sung to Michelle by the Beatles)
Hello, Hello – primary song
So, she’s a big of a spitter-upper (sung to “fixer-upper” from the movie Frozen)