Friday, May 29, 2009
Thursday, May 21, 2009
We just got back from the ultrasound. I'll tell you, the minute I got to see my baby on the screen, it took my breath away & I knew that if it was a boy or girl, if it only had 2 fingers or one arm, no matter what, I was in love with this baby. I seriously could have just sat in there & watched her move around all night. Thankfully, everything looks great - all 10 fingers & 10 toes and she's right on track for her due date. The girls had a great time watching their new baby sister on the screen & we are all excited to come up with names and think about welcoming another sister into our home.
If you're wondering how Jason is taking this, he is fantastic - such a great daddy. I asked him how he would feel if he never got a son. He said he would be fine and he knows, just like I mentioned in my last post, that there is specific reasons why God chooses certain genders for certain families. Although, he did comment on drama & wedding costs :) Now...if I can just train him on fixing hair because it's hard enough to fix my own & my girls hair in the morning - especially on Sundays!
As a funny sidenote, McKinley was talking to Jason's sister on the phone & she asked her if she thought it looked like a baby in my tummy. McKinley said "No - I think it looked like a kangaroo!" I thought that was pretty funny because she kind of did look like a kangaroo- her legs were up and she was all scrunched in there. Maybe we'll have to start calling her our little "roo" :)
Tuesday, May 19, 2009
Tuesday, May 12, 2009
Last night, as we were eating ice cream after FHE, we watched our wedding video with the girls. McKinley got a real kick out of it and was having a hard time guessing who everyone was in the pictures because we all looked so young. My baby sister Trisha was in the video on our wedding day - only 11 years old. Now she's been married for a year! My NIECE is now 11! Yes, now that makes me feel a bit old.
So much has happened in 9 years - getting our undergrads from the U, moving to Park City, working, having our first baby, changing jobs, moving to the Salt Lake Valley, adding another beautiful baby to the brood, going back to school, looking forward to this new baby...
I love you sweetheart. I thank my Heavenly Father for you EVERY day. Thanks for putting up with me - especially these past few sick, grouchy months.
Te Amo MUCHISISIMO!
Sunday, May 10, 2009
I am so thankful for my girls who gave me the amazing, beautiful, incredible title of "mom" or "momma" as I'm most often called. I remember being in the hospital after having McKinley, just seriously amazed that they were going to let me walk out of that place with this tiny baby - that the world, and more importantly my Heavenly Father - trusted me to take care of her and teach her and love her and help her grow into a capable, faithful, strong woman.
I have a friend who gives her children gifts on Mother's Day because they, after all, are the ones who made her a mother. I would like to give my children gifts as well, but since our budget is pretty tight this year, I would like to give them gifts of myself.
So, my children, here is a list of qualities I promise to work on getting, improving, and losing. You are certainly choice spirits whom I love so dearly - and you deserve the best mom you can have. This is a small list, and there are many more to add, but hopefully by this time next year, I will have gotten better at these.
SOME QUALITIES I WANT TO "PASS ON" TO MY CHILDREN:
-Service. Sure, I want to take my kids to Disneyland like everybody else, but what I'd REALLY like to do (when they're a bit older) is take them to a 3rd world country to help those in need - and give us all a reality check about how blessed we are. Of course, this is on a larger scale, but I'd like weekly and daily to have my kids help me serve others - that they can LOVE to serve.
-Healthy living. I hope I pass on my love of exercising to them and the joy, stress relief, and therapy that can be found by just having a really good work out. I am far from perfect on this, but I also want to pass on a love of eating right - of loving fruits & veggies - of wanting to eat right.
-The Right Priorities. I hope that as my children watch me, they will tell you that my priorities are #1- my relationship with my Savior, #2 - my husband, my children, and family, #3 - helping others, #4 - everything else. Obviously, taking care of myself is very important, too, because it's hard to take care of others when you aren't healthy physically or spiritually.
-Gratitude. I want my children to be able to be filled with gratitude every day for all they have - even their trials. I want them to be able to find God's miracles every day of their lives and feel his love for them. I want them to express gratitude to God for His mercies and gratitude for everyone in their lives that makes a difference. I need to do so much better at teaching this.
-Virtue. In this world, it is going to be VERY difficult to have a virtuous child, but I truly want my kids to be pure and innocent - shunning filth and staying clean and worthy of the Holy Ghost.
-Loving God. This is one that I put last, but is obviously the most important. I want my children do what they do in life because they love Heavenly Father & Jesus. I want them to go to church because they love God, not because their friends are there, or a cute boy is there. I want them to pay their tithing because they love God, not because their parents make them. This is going to be difficult FOR SURE, but it is the goal.
QUALITIES I HAVE THAT I DO NOT WANT TO PASS ON TO MY KIDS:
-Negativity. I admit I can be negative - I tend to worry about things more than I should. I really don't want to pass that on to my kids. Here's my resolve to trust God more and LET GO of the fear and negativity - to use my happy voice and find positive all around me - and play WITH my kids more.
-Not REALLY Listening. I have a tenancy - especially when my husband or children are talking to me - to half-listen. To think about the 4 or 5 things I need to do after that conversation. I want to FOCUS on them - help them know that they are important to me and what they have to say is important to me. I want to be more sympathetic and listen with my heart.
-The scriptures & praying. I do read the scriptures, but I'm not so good at the studying, pondering, and applying part. I want to LOVE to read - to be able to share insights with my children and get excited about applying principles to my life and my families life. I want to memorize scriptures that will help me be a better mom and help us be a better family. As far as praying, I do pray. We do pray as a family, but I want to do more spontaneous praying - when we hear about someone in need or we have lost something or we are having a hard day, I want to be able to fall to our knees as a family and say a sincere prayer. This should be a regular occurrence, since these things happen daily.
-Not always taking care of myself: I want my children to be able to look at me and know that I care about this temple He has given me - clean, clear skin, healthy body, eating things that are good for me.
Friday, May 8, 2009
-Unselfish: This is true in many senses, but right now the specific example that comes to mind is her pregnancies. Four times she went through the nightmare of basically living by the toilet - throwing up all the time and being miserable. Then, later on in pregnancy, she had problems with leg clots, so she had to wear special nylons and she couldn't do much. Really, she sacrificed so much to bring children into this world. This year, ESPECIALLY, my love goes out to her for this unselfish act of love on my behalf.
-Engaged: I read somewhere that once a girl reaches 13, only like 40% of them go to their moms with their concerns, questions, and issues. Kids rely more on their friends, and parents basically give up on communication. Not my mom! Even through those years when I would barely respond to any of her questions about my life, SHE KEPT ASKING! And she asked (lovingly and caringly) until she got answers. Through notes in my school lunch, 1-on-1 talks, and dates she showed me that she cared about me & wasn't about to give up. And it never changed! All through high school, college, marriage, kids, etc, she never disengaged. She has always shown me that she cares about me and my life. This is one quality I hope I hold on to - even when my kids get older.
-Generosity: It would fill this entire blog to list all the generous things she has done & given, but to name a few - she let us stay in her basement apartment free of charge (we helped her around her house) for the first 3 years of our marriage. That one act of love gave us enough money for a large down-payment on our Park City home & enough to be debt-free in this home! She also has let each one of my sisters stay in her basement apartment at different times in our lives. She will never know the full blessing of that basement apartment. And then little things - like giving us money to spend in Phoenix and a wonderful meal - and sending Easter cards. She has so many grandchildren & great-grandchildren, but she makes sure we each feel special. Love you grandma!
-Determination: Some would unknowingly call this Irish stubbornness, but I would prefer to look at the benefits. She knew what she wanted & she worked hard to get it. I love my grandma for that.
-Good food: She made yummy breakfasts, memorable and delicious Thanksgiving dinners, and always had grapes, 7-up, and a candy jar that never emptied :)
Friday, May 1, 2009
-We were in line at Ross & all the sudden McKinley says (rather loudly) “Mom – look at that boy! He has earrings!” Mom tried to shush her & tell her it was OK, but she said “But mom – only GIRLS are supposed to have earrings!” After that we had a little talk about using our quiet voices if she has questions about the way others look.
-We were on the freeway & drove past a huge mound of dirt. McKinley got excited, pointed & said “Look dad – it’s a volcano!”
-We were listening to “This little light of mine” on our stereo and McKinley said “But mom, I can’t let my light shine. It’s too bright!”
-McKinley’s prayer “…and please bless mommy. She has heartburn a lot and is puking a lot because she has a baby in her tummy.”
-Mom asked McKinley one day why she was so beautiful. She said “Because I’m a lady.”
-McKinley was pretty disappointed that we weren’t able to catch the Easter Bunny on Easter morning. She said “maybe if we blow bubbles, he’ll come back!”
-While we were eating dinner one night, McKinley came over to mom, put her hand on her shoulder and said “Mom – I hope you don’t puke that up.”
-For FHE we were singing Jesus wants me for a Sunbeam & putting our hands in the air. McKinley stopped the song & said “Mom – the baby in your tummy has to do the actions, too!”
-McKinley was saying the prayer one morning & was taking a while, so mom helped with “Thank you for the snow.” McKinley repeated “thank you for the snow…(and added) to melt”
-McKinley’s latest thing is telling “secrets.” She doesn’t like to say things out loud, but wants to whisper them (loudly) in your ear.
-McKinley still LOVES to read - probably her favorite book for the past few months has been her pink princess books with all of the classic Disney stories in it. We read it almost every night for bedtime. She LOVES the “Rescue Mice” story.
-McKinley still says “I love you” a lot. One day she said I love you & mom said I love you back. McKinley asked “Always & forever?”
Ireland: Our little girl never ceases to amaze us! Here’s what Ireland has been up to:
-After you give her something, she will often say “Thank you!” And before you can respond she says “welcome!”
-Ireland has been really picky with what she eats this past month. She has pushed most plates away with a “I don’t want it!” and we have to let her pick her cereal each morning or she won’t eat it.
-Ireland still loves ring around the rosies and when she’s in the mood, she’ll just take your hands, start spinning & saying “ashes, ashes!”
-Ireland has been big into assigning everything to everyone lately. She’ll point to something & say “Mommy’s cup” or “Daddy’s hat” or “Kinley’s shoes”
-Ireland is still a shoe maniac. On any given afternoon, you will find approximately 7-10 pairs of various kinds and sizes of shoes strewn throughout the house. She doesn’t stay in one pair for more than a few minutes before she’s looking for another pair to try on.
-Ireland has figured out how to get a cup, get the stool, and get water from the fridge. The problem is that she doesn’t stop there. She likes to get LOTS of water & dump it into other cups – usually on the carpet – and we have lots of big, wet messes. We’ve been locking the water more, but it’s hard for McKinley to unlock.
-Ireland is just like her sister & can’t wait to go somewhere & she get’s REALLY upset if someone leaves without her (especially her daddy). The other day, she brought daddy his shoes, mommy her shoes, and said “let’s go!”
-Ireland has amazed & surprised us with what she knows. She brings us letters from our Word Whammer on the fridge and actually knows probably 5 or 6 of the letters without us helping her. She also loves to point at the letters on our keyboard.
-Ireland is starting to learn colors and can sing most of the alphabet and still loves to count to 3.
-Ireland has been really whiney lately & we’re not sure why – especially in the afternoons. She’s been going to bed pretty early because she just won’t calm down, but then she’s been getting up at 6:30am!